How much is too much stress?

While a little bit of stress may be good for us to get working well, too much and we’re tipping into anxiety, panic then burnout. Too much stress and we lose motivation, it’s more difficult to concentrate and to remember things.Sometimes when we’re stressedout we keep jabbing at the thing we’re trying to do. WeContinue reading “How much is too much stress?”

Third Culture Kids

A Third Culture Kid or TCK for short is a young person who has lived for a significant amount of time outside of their parents home country. Sometimes called Transnational Kids or Cross Cultural Kids, their personal identity will be different from both that of their parents and the cultures in which they live. TheyContinue reading “Third Culture Kids”

Self Care Planning

The idea that we need to care for ourselves is not new but many of us still neglect it. Why? I think it’s because when times are good, like our physical health, we don’t take much notice of our mental and emotional health. We just potter on. On the flipside some of us roll ourContinue reading “Self Care Planning”

Putting Condoms on in the Dark: How to make a furry box

I used to do sexual health outreach sessions in the city centre, and there is always problems with doing any kind of condom demonstration out on the streets as, well, you don’t want to be brandishing, what to many members of the public anyway, looks like a plastic penis… Soooo I’ve made a ‘furry box’Continue reading “Putting Condoms on in the Dark: How to make a furry box”

How does your behaviour affect your relationships?

One of the main issues I work with as a counsellor is relationships and how people can become closer to the ones they love. Often they have gotten into patterns of controlling behaviour and seem to think if only the other person could change their behaviour then they would be happy. But relationships are notContinue reading “How does your behaviour affect your relationships?”

Show up… but also look after you.

I finally finished watching the third season of 13 Reasons Why and I wanted to pick up something the (new) school counsellor says to Clay Jenkins. He asks “how do you do your job everyday when nothing ever changes?” She replies by telling him that he personally helped Tyler change by encouraging him to seekContinue reading “Show up… but also look after you.”

Sentence Starters are…

…great for getting people talking. I bought these coloured lolly pop sticks a little while ago & finally got around to writing on them today. Each stick has the start of a sentence on it which the young people can finish. Ideally they shouldn’t think too hard about what they answer. A way to doContinue reading “Sentence Starters are…”

Navigating Tech and Relationships

I worry sometimes about young people and technology. No not for the reasons you might think of straight away. Not the sexting. Not the access to explicit content. Not the bullying. Not the myriad of horrendous people online. I’ve seen young people take down and deal with all of that spectacularly – its a worldContinue reading “Navigating Tech and Relationships”

Talking about consent & pleasure is essential to safeguard young people

In light of the renewed interest in the allegations against Michael Jackson, I thought I’d post this discussion from back in 2013 when I was interviewed for a Brook project on talking about sexual pleasure within Relationships and Sex Education. As Steve also says, children and young people who are sexually abused or exploited doContinue reading “Talking about consent & pleasure is essential to safeguard young people”