How much is too much stress?

While a little bit of stress may be good for us to get working well, too much and we’re tipping into anxiety, panic then burnout. Too much stress and we lose motivation, it’s more difficult to concentrate and to remember things.Sometimes when we’re stressedout we keep jabbing at the thing we’re trying to do. WeContinue reading “How much is too much stress?”

Third Culture Kids

A Third Culture Kid or TCK for short is a young person who has lived for a significant amount of time outside of their parents home country. Sometimes called Transnational Kids or Cross Cultural Kids, their personal identity will be different from both that of their parents and the cultures in which they live. TheyContinue reading “Third Culture Kids”

Please stop telling me to “Stay Safe”

2 months into Covid19 and I’m finally hitting a wall. A wall that most people I think have already ran into by now. I am so over every conversation, every news piece, every way this has seeped into our psyches. My brain is finally fuzzy with an overload of cortisol and I feel like I’mContinue reading “Please stop telling me to “Stay Safe””

How does your behaviour affect your relationships?

One of the main issues I work with as a counsellor is relationships and how people can become closer to the ones they love. Often they have gotten into patterns of controlling behaviour and seem to think if only the other person could change their behaviour then they would be happy. But relationships are notContinue reading “How does your behaviour affect your relationships?”

Show up… but also look after you.

I finally finished watching the third season of 13 Reasons Why and I wanted to pick up something the (new) school counsellor says to Clay Jenkins. He asks “how do you do your job everyday when nothing ever changes?” She replies by telling him that he personally helped Tyler change by encouraging him to seekContinue reading “Show up… but also look after you.”

Grief & Living Away

Grief is a funny old beast, usually reserved for loved ones who die, but can also sneak up on you for people who have left, for an incarnation of who you once were, or for a place or time when things were good; different. Living away from home can sometimes seem to be a neverContinue reading “Grief & Living Away”

Sentence Starters are…

…great for getting people talking. I bought these coloured lolly pop sticks a little while ago & finally got around to writing on them today. Each stick has the start of a sentence on it which the young people can finish. Ideally they shouldn’t think too hard about what they answer. A way to doContinue reading “Sentence Starters are…”

Talking about consent & pleasure is essential to safeguard young people

In light of the renewed interest in the allegations against Michael Jackson, I thought I’d post this discussion from back in 2013 when I was interviewed for a Brook project on talking about sexual pleasure within Relationships and Sex Education. As Steve also says, children and young people who are sexually abused or exploited doContinue reading “Talking about consent & pleasure is essential to safeguard young people”

72 Five Minute Stress Relief Ideas

Cuddle your pet Do 20 star jumps Drink warm milo Walk around your house Smell your favourite perfume Stretch as high as you can Try to touch your toes Sing Dance to an upbeat song Be silly Look at a photo of a happy time Have a shower Have a snack Draw something simple &Continue reading “72 Five Minute Stress Relief Ideas”