If you asked I would tell you 1 in 3 of us have been subjected to sexual violence. I would tell you it doesn’t have to define you.I would tell you, it wasn’t your fault.Don’t protest, it was definitely not your fault. I’d tell you that blaming yourself absolves the perpetrator of responsibility,I’d tell you […]Read More The Things I Would Tell You
While a little bit of stress may be good for us to get working well, too much and we’re tipping into anxiety, panic then burnout. Too much stress and we lose motivation, it’s more difficult to concentrate and to remember things.Sometimes when we’re stressedout we keep jabbing at the thing we’re trying to do. We […]Read More How much is too much stress?
2 months into Covid19 and I’m finally hitting a wall. A wall that most people I think have already ran into by now. I am so over every conversation, every news piece, every way this has seeped into our psyches. My brain is finally fuzzy with an overload of cortisol and I feel like I’m […]Read More Please stop telling me to “Stay Safe”
The idea that we need to care for ourselves is not new but many of us still neglect it. Why? I think it’s because when times are good, like our physical health, we don’t take much notice of our mental and emotional health. We just potter on. On the flipside some of us roll our […]Read More Self Care Planning
If you feel uncomfortable, upset or angry when someone does something, chances are your boundaries – the actions you will tolerate towards yourself – have been violated. Some of us don’t want to challenge that person because we hate conflict. Some of us think that if we show them we are unhappy they will understand […]Read More When someone has crossed a line
One of the main issues I work with as a counsellor is relationships and how people can become closer to the ones they love. Often they have gotten into patterns of controlling behaviour and seem to think if only the other person could change their behaviour then they would be happy. But relationships are not […]Read More How does your behaviour affect your relationships?