Why we need to have a conversation about sexual pleasure and consent

Back in 2013 I was interviewed by Brook at a conference at UCL about the importance of talking about sexual pleasure as part of Relationships and Sex Education. It seems like we need to have this conversation again in light of the #metoo movement and Everyone’s Invited, both highlighting the wallpaper of sexual violence thatContinue reading “Why we need to have a conversation about sexual pleasure and consent”

New Training Courses

I am pleased to announced I am now an accredited trainer through Nuco Training UK, and able to deliver the following courses both in person and online. First Aid for Mental Health FAA Level 1 Award in Awareness of First Aid for Mental Health Award in Awareness of First Aid for Mental Health at SCQFContinue reading “New Training Courses”

When someone has crossed a line

If you feel uncomfortable, upset or angry when someone does something, chances are your boundaries – the actions you will tolerate towards yourself – have been violated. Some of us don’t want to challenge that person because we hate conflict. Some of us think that if we show them we are unhappy they will understandContinue reading “When someone has crossed a line”

A little bit deaf

About a month ago I was diagnosed with mild to moderate SNHL which means, in a nutshell, I am a little bit deaf. In both ears. It is something which normally happens as we get older, it’s just mine was accelerated a bit. Cos clearly at 39 I’m still young! Well according to the AudiologistContinue reading “A little bit deaf”

Grief & Living Away

Grief is a funny old beast, usually reserved for loved ones who die, but can also sneak up on you for people who have left, for an incarnation of who you once were, or for a place or time when things were good; different. Living away from home can sometimes seem to be a neverContinue reading “Grief & Living Away”

Sentence Starters are…

…great for getting people talking. I bought these coloured lolly pop sticks a little while ago & finally got around to writing on them today. Each stick has the start of a sentence on it which the young people can finish. Ideally they shouldn’t think too hard about what they answer. A way to doContinue reading “Sentence Starters are…”

Thinking about Consent

“When we don’t consent to flirting, when it’s not reciprocated and it’s repeated, it is harassment. Hissing “slut” at women is harassment. Rape threats online is harassment.” A contribution by Aylssa Cowell There are only two legitimate reasons for sex: fun or procreation. I cannot think of any other circumstance for it to be okayContinue reading “Thinking about Consent”