Thinking about Consent

“When we don’t consent to flirting, when it’s not reciprocated and it’s repeated, it is harassment. Hissing “slut” at women is harassment. Rape threats online is harassment.” A contribution by Aylssa Cowell There are only two legitimate reasons for sex: fun or procreation. I cannot think of any other circumstance for it to be okay […]

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Training RSE in Asia

Relationships & Sex Education was a massive part of my previous work history. Until I moved to Brunei in 2014 I trained professionals in the UK in loads of different courses freelance or in partnership with the NHS. Since I’ve been out here I haven’t done much sexual health training at all. Maybe once a […]

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Navigating Tech and Relationships

I worry sometimes about young people and technology. No not for the reasons you might think of straight away. Not the sexting. Not the access to explicit content. Not the bullying. Not the myriad of horrendous people online. I’ve seen young people take down and deal with all of that spectacularly – its a world […]

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Surfing Brunei

I can’t surf. Pretty much because I lack confidence mainly due to my utter dislike of water up my nose and behind my contact lenses. So every year I have a go, then 10 goes into trying to stand I go off in a huff and don’t do it again for another year.  My partner […]

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A Letter to the Stayers

It’s that time of year again. Students with signatures all over crisp white school shirts. One day they are here; the next there’s an empty seat where your friend used to be. And this happens over and over again, until one day you may decide that what’s the point in making new friends – it’s […]

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