One of the main issues I work with as a counsellor is relationships and how people can become closer to the ones they love. Often they have gotten into patterns of controlling behaviour and seem to think if only the other person could change their behaviour then they would be happy. But relationships are not […]Read More How does your behaviour affect your relationships?
About a month ago I was diagnosed with mild to moderate SNHL which means, in a nutshell, I am a little bit deaf. In both ears. It is something which normally happens as we get older, it’s just mine was accelerated a bit. Cos clearly at 39 I’m still young! Well according to the Audiologist […]Read More A little bit deaf
I finally finished watching the third season of 13 Reasons Why and I wanted to pick up something the (new) school counsellor says to Clay Jenkins. He asks “how do you do your job everyday when nothing ever changes?” She replies by telling him that he personally helped Tyler change by encouraging him to seek […]Read More Show up… but also look after you.
Grief is a funny old beast, usually reserved for loved ones who die, but can also sneak up on you for people who have left, for an incarnation of who you once were, or for a place or time when things were good; different. Living away from home can sometimes seem to be a never […]Read More Grief & Living Away
…great for getting people talking. I bought these coloured lolly pop sticks a little while ago & finally got around to writing on them today. Each stick has the start of a sentence on it which the young people can finish. Ideally they shouldn’t think too hard about what they answer. A way to do […]Read More Sentence Starters are…
“When we don’t consent to flirting, when it’s not reciprocated and it’s repeated, it is harassment. Hissing “slut” at women is harassment. Rape threats online is harassment.” A contribution by Aylssa Cowell There are only two legitimate reasons for sex: fun or procreation. I cannot think of any other circumstance for it to be okay […]Read More Thinking about Consent
Relationships & Sex Education was a massive part of my previous work history. Until I moved to Brunei in 2014 I trained professionals in the UK in loads of different courses freelance or in partnership with the NHS. Since I’ve been out here I haven’t done much sexual health training at all. Maybe once a […]Read More Training RSE in Asia
I worry sometimes about young people and technology. No not for the reasons you might think of straight away. Not the sexting. Not the access to explicit content. Not the bullying. Not the myriad of horrendous people online. I’ve seen young people take down and deal with all of that spectacularly – its a world […]Read More Navigating Tech and Relationships
In light of the renewed interest in the allegations against Michael Jackson, I thought I’d post this discussion from back in 2013 when I was interviewed for a Brook project on talking about sexual pleasure within Relationships and Sex Education. As Steve also says, children and young people who are sexually abused or exploited do […]Read More Talking about consent & pleasure is essential to safeguard young people
I can’t surf. Pretty much because I lack confidence mainly due to my utter dislike of water up my nose and behind my contact lenses. So every year I have a go, then 10 goes into trying to stand I go off in a huff and don’t do it again for another year. My partner […]Read More Surfing Brunei